I’m in a relationship with a man I have loved so much and it’s almost 1 year now since we started the relationship. At the beginning of this relationship he could not live a day without hearing my voice, which is either a phone call or video call on Whatsapp. As time went by, he wanted his parents to come and see my parents regarding our marriage rite but I stopped him from going on with the decision.
He wasn’t happy when I did that but I gave him my reasons which he understood me, since then his friends and some of my friends have been telling him things against me, just in the name of him to break up with me but he used to tell me what they have been telling him and I will encourage him then tell him the truth about myself and my lifestyle.
All of a sudden this guy negatively changed towards me which I don’t even understand anymore. Sometimes I will see him online on Facebook and when chatting with him he will not reply to me, I have asked him why he is hurting my love for him, he gave me reasons which I understood him, but still, he stopped calling me and when I asked he told me I can also call him if he didn’t call me. Since then he has stopped giving me attention then told me it’s because of the work that’s not giving him a chance to spend time with me. Because I know the time he closes from work, I call him by that time because I know he will be able to talk with me but he will hang up and later call or send me a text message that he was watching a football game, and he’s about to sleep so we can’t talk now.
I feel too worried when he tells me all things and in order not to overthink things he said, I will start calling those people I never wanted to call or talk to just to feel happy and forget what he’s doing to me. I have been asking him why he has negatively changed and he tells me I’m not the only one he has changed for, that he has also changed towards other people, even his relatives because he’s in a difficult stage of his life. I asked him what was wrong. He told me he knows how ladies are so he will not tell me his problems for me not to spread it to the public, before now he used to tell me what he’s passing through but I don’t know why he said this to me.
All his actions towards me now speak to me that he doesn’t love me anymore and when I asked him he tells me he still loves me and has been thinking about me but non of his actions shows he still love me, I keep asking him questions which he says I want to leave him that’s why I keep asking him questions, meanwhile it’s not true, am trying to know my stand with him, I love this guy and I’m trying all my best to make him love me like he used to but it seems I’m wasting my time doing it. I have taken the relationship seriously but I don’t think he really needs me anymore.
Anytime I’m worried or disturbed about something I feel like telling him but I’m afraid of doing that this time because he told me his problem is even bigger than mine, how will a man who loves you tell you this kind of thing?
I’m confused and don’t even know who I am in his heart. Should I trust this guy or not please I need advice, he’s hurting me.
Advice: When you see yourself in this kind of relationship problem, it’s obvious you are not wanted by him or her anymore. Seeing it from her storyline, her friends and her boyfriend’s friends negatively influenced him against the girl and their love for each other.
Is also important to be mindful of how you involve third-party in your relationship or marriage because very few of them are happy that your relationship or marriage is going well.
According to Webster’s dictionary: deception is the act of causing someone to accept as true or valid what is false or invalid. Deception is the act or practice of deceiving, lying, misleading, or otherwise hiding or distorting the truth. The related word, deceit, often means the same thing. Anything that involves intentionally misleading someone is deception. People can even engage in self-deception by avoiding the truth.
In this season of the covid pandemic, there is no doubt that the majority of people have bowed down to fear and deception. There is no doubt that the devil has taken over the hearts of the majority of people through fear and deception.
In this season of the covid pandemic, it seems that many have lost hope and they don’t know what the future holds for them. Some are thinking as if God has forsaken them but the truth is that God has never forsaken anybody.
Hopelessness can be seen in many people whether among Christians or non-Christians. Both groups of people are living as if there is no God to help them. Hopelessness is the order of the day for many people.
Some Christians are acting like their antennas are not pointing to God; it is like they have lost their signal. But if there is hope for a tree when it has fallen, what more with children of God.
For there is hope of a tree, if it be cut down, that it will sprout again, and that the tender branch thereof will not cease (Job 14:7 KJV)
The author of fear and deception
God advises us not to fear anything because He will protect us in times of trouble. He is a loving father who doesn’t use fear or deception to trick his children. He gave us free will to choose. He is love and love is His nature.
The devil uses fear and deception to put the people in bondage, and it is his trademark of oppressing mankind. You cannot talk about deception without talking of the devil. The devil and his agents, the globalists, are winning the battle using fear and deception.
Before I go far let me show the truth from the Bible about the devil, the father of lies and deceptions.
Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden? (Genesis 3:1 KJV)
Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it (John 8:44 KJV)
The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly (John 10:10 KJV)
Now is come salvation, and strength, and the kingdom of our God, and the power of his Christ: for the accuser of our brethren is cast down, which accused them before our God, day and night. (Revelation 12:10 KJV)
Why then do people believe in the devil’s lies?
Here are some of the reasons why some people are in bondage
The one who controls your finances has power over you. When someone is rich, he oftentimes has the power to control what is going on around him.
The globalists are powerful because they have money and are able to control the world. One example is Bill Gates, he has influence in many industries i.e., the food industry, pharmaceuticals, the computer world, and the Healthy sector; even in UN agencies, he has a voice and nobody can silence him.
With his Bill & Melinda Foundation, he owns a lot of shares in different organizations
He with other individuals or foundations like Rockefeller, World Economic Forum (WEF) globalist Klaus Schwab, UN Chief (and socialist leader) Antonio Guterres and IMF leader Kristalina Georgieva, Jeff Bezos just to mention a few have voices that cannot be challenged by anybody in the world.
He is the brain behind ID2020, which will be materialized soon or later. The coming of the COVID-19 vaccine, the ID2020, is likely to come into effect with our eyes open.
A person with a few million cannot affect the whole world. The majority of people are being controlled because they are poor. With the globalists’ money and capacity, they can control the world and they are controlling the leaders of the nations.
Even the Bible teaches us that money is defense, (Ecclesiastes 7:12). With it, they are able to control the leaders of the nations.
Believing in mainstream media
The devil has a mouth to spread his deception. He knows the power of media in disseminating his lies. He controls the airwaves, social media, print media, etc.
Please, find out who owns CNN, BBC, Washington Post, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, just to mention a few. You will find that globalists are owners of these media platforms. These channels will make sure to promote the lies from the devil.
The truth is that most of our local media houses just copy and paste from international media. They don’t research and don’t accept any contrary views to what they have heard from the international media. To them, anything from these media houses is gospel truth.
Some of these organizations are helping in suppressing the truth. For example, you cannot hear any negative news about the Covid-19 vaccines. Facebook was not allowing any person to post about Wuhan, the origin of Covid-19. But the truth has come out, and they have failed to suppress it.
You cannot get the whole truth of the matter if you are just trusting one source. Go for personal research from several sources if you want to know the truth.
Some of these media houses are mouthpieces of the devil promoting his agenda through his lies and deception. They make sure they tarnish the image of those who are saying the truth.
The government, and both local and international media, will always portray that the unvaccinated are the ones spreading the virus. But the truth of the matter is that vaccinated people are the ones dying and spreading the virus.
Fear of the future
With the news they are hearing from the media, the majority have painted a hopeless future. They are fearing what the future holds for them.
Fear has put many people in bondage but God says fear not. Why fear when God says he has a great plan for you. Why fear when He says I will be with you always.
Fear of the future is anticipatory anxiety. It’s excessive worry about potential future events. People with anticipatory anxiety often experience panic attacks. The best way to define anticipatory anxiety is that it is the anxiety of “what if?
Fear of the Future is increasing nowadays as people succumb to the pressures of being vaccinated because they don’t want to lose their jobs or what will happen if they are not vaccinated. The ‘unknown’ future can, for many individuals, create fear.
This type of fear can start to control lives and people can become too scared to take the pathways they really want to in life for fear of the risks involved or the uncertainty and outcomes associated with change.
Fear of the future makes a person make unpleasant decisions because he is unstable as water. Instead of worrying about the future, let our faith be in the Lord Jesus Christ.
Forsaking the truth of God
When the truth of the word of God is forsaken people start believing in the lies of the devil. Deception becomes the order of the day. People start believing in everything that they feel it’s good without cross-checking with the word of God.
God wants us to live and walk in His word; His word is the answer to our problems. He said that He will never leave us nor forsake us. He continued saying that we should cast our troubles to Him because He cares for us.
Forsaking the word of God invites fear in our life because according to the word of God, believers are not born with the spirit of fear but of love, sound mind, and power. Fearing what Covid-19 will do to you is to show a lack of trust in God and is to glorify Satan.
Forsaking the word of God is to deny Holy Spirit to be the guide. If the Holy Spirit is not the guide, then the devil uses his tactics and tricks on us.
God wants us to live fearless lives and some Bible scholars believe that there are three hundred sixty-five fear-not references in the Bible. This is to show that fear is out in our day-to-day lives.
Protecting their jobs
In the era of the pandemic, some people around the world are receiving COVID-19 vaccines just to keep their jobs. A lot of people do understand that some have lost their lives because of the vaccine. The truth is that the vaccine is killing more people than Covid-19 itself but yet people are forced or willingly get jabbed just to keep their jobs.
I have read cases where some people are quitting their jobs because they know the danger of being jabbed. Some people prefer to quit their jobs when they feel that they are being forced to get the covid vaccine against their choice.
If you put your trust in your job and not in God, you may end up gaining the whole world and losing your soul. You are going to dance to the tunes of the globalists or leftists.
Remember, the words of Jesus Christ, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” He said if you walk into the fire, He will be with you.
Because their leaders say so
If you think your leaders are ignorant of what is going on around the world, then you are fooling yourself. They know what is going on, and some of them their hands are bound because there is a big hand controlling them.
The worst mistake that one can make is to believe whatever his/her leaders are saying to be gospel truth. They are happy to make decisions based on what their sponsors are saying without thinking of the consequences.
I remember reading what my minister of health and the chairperson of covid 19 task force, encouraging parents to take their children vaccinations. She did try to sweet talk just to convince people to go for vaccination.
It seems like some people in authority especially political leaders are working for some globalists, or they are working under pressure to achieve their master’s agenda. It looks like they will do anything for money.
To be brainwashed means to make someone adopt radically different beliefs by using systematic and often forcible pressure. Some people are living in deception because of wrong information from the media, especially social media platforms. Others have forsaken the truth and they are believing the lies from the media without verifying the facts with necessary authorities.
The truth is that these media houses and those in authority speak the same language most of the time, and one can easily believe what they say without checking if it is the absolute truth. Each person has the right to take responsibility for their lives and to choose what they want to be part of.
If you have been brainwashed, it means you have forsaken seeking information on that particular topic. It means somebody has taken advantage of your ignorance to feed you what he wants. It is giving control of yourself to somebody.
Reggae Musician late Bob Marley said ignorance is the only weapon to oppress the poor.
Ignorance breeds fear because you avoid searching for the knowledge you become fearful and you start believing in lies. Prophet Hosea said if you reject knowledge, God will reject you.
My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children (Hosea 4:6 KJV)
Today the globalists and leftists are trying their best to keep people in constant fear because some people have chosen to believe their lies. It seems that some people don’t want to look for knowledge, and they prefer ignorance.
Ignorance is not an excuse in the court of law. I don’t know what the thought pattern is for some people who ignore knowledge. Ignorance is not helpful; it is better to know the truth and act accordingly.
To summarize, many are trapped in the deception of the devil and by his agents because of their making. They don’t want to take responsibility for their lives. I urge you to take responsibility and search for the truth on issues that affect your life; don’t just believe in everything you are told.
Technology is awesome and great, being able to reach multitudes whom I don’t know just because of technology. in this Information Age technology is a must for every individual on earth.
It can be harmful when it lands in an evil person, can be a means of destroying someone. The designer of any technology’s aim is to help humanity but when it reaches the hands of evil people he can use it to destroy somebody.
But one peculiar thing I come to realize is what the Bible teaches. One thing I learned when I was growing up was I didn’t believe that it is possible to have one currency for the whole world.
“And he causeth all, both small and great, rich and poor, free and bond, to receive a mark in their right hand, or in their foreheads: and that no man might buy or sell, save he that had the mark, or the name of the beast, or the number of his name.”
While growing up I thought God err but now I know was erred, “father forgives me for doubting your word.” With technology around one world currency is a reality. it is becoming a reality with our eyes open.
Technology will make it possible, I believe everyone is aware of how technology has brought a global village. Anybody can do transactions remotely as long as there is internet around. I can send money to my mother in a remote area in Ntcheu (Malawi) and she will receive instant, no hustle.
With mobile banking business transactions can be done without exchanging physical money. That’s how technology has made us live on.
The coming of one currency is not that difficult than it was in the 80s now it is reality. This is to prove that Jesus Christ is the true God, He prophesies it and it comes to pass with our eyes open. It is time to put trust in him and to accept him to be Lord of our life.
Digital currency/electronic currency
According to Wikipedia “Digital currency (digital money, electronic money or electronic currency) is any currency, money, or money-like asset that is primarily managed, stored or exchanged on digital computer systems, especially over the internet.”
Most of these digital currencies are owned and controlled but private companies. They can be used to buy physical items or services.
Anybody who uses the internet is aware of cryptocurrency one of the major examples is Bitcoin. This is what Wikipedia said about Bitcoin (₿), it is a decentralized digital currency, without a central bank or single administrator, that can be sent from user to user on the peer-to-peer bitcoin network without the need for intermediaries.Transactions are verified by network nodes through cryptography and recorded in a public distributed ledger called a blockchain.
Central Banking Digital Currency (CBDC)
A CBDC generally refers to electronic or virtual central bank (fiat) money that is created in the form of digital tokens or account balances which are digital claims on the central bank.
A Central Bank Digital Currency (CBDC) is the digital form of a country’s fiat currency that is also a claim on the central bank.
Instead of printing money, the central bank issues electronic coins or accounts backed by the full faith and credit of the government and will be a legal tender.
As such, it is issued and regulated by the nation’s monetary authority or central bank. As such, they are backed by the full faith and credit of the issuing government.1 CBDCs can simplify the implementation of monetary and fiscal policy and promote financial inclusion in an economy by bringing the unbanked into the financial system. It sounds good move but it’s dangerous because it will be used to control people.
Central banks are already working on two types of CBDCs, ‘wholesale’ digital tokens that would have access restricted to banks and financial entities to be used for activities like interbank payments and wholesale market transactions, and ‘general purpose’ (retail) CBDC for the general public to be used in retail transactions.
Some may ask why is the government interested in digital currency, There are a lot of reasons to explore virtual currencies, depending on the economic situation within a country.
CBDCs are more cost-efficient than physical cash as they have lower transaction
costs; they can promote financial inclusion, meaning those who are unbanked can get easier and safer access to money on their phone;
they can compete with private companies that need incentives to meet transparency standards and limit illicit activity, and they can help monetary policy flow more quickly and seamlessly.
Currently, digital currency is being owned privately by individual companies, but soon the government will take over. Some countries have already started using it in a pilot phase.
Those at the development stage include the central banks of Canada, Russia, Brazil, Turkey, France, and Nigeria.
Those at the research stage include the central banks of the US, UK, Australia, Norway, India, Pakistan, and Indonesia.
Nigeria is the first country in Africa to launch its digital currency called eNaira. It is controlled by the government.
So as you can see, this is not some theoretical issue. Centrally controlled digital currencies are coming down the pipe in a big way, and some will be appearing, if not imminently, then very soon.
This might look like a good idea but it’s a devilish idea with the aim of controlling man. When the government takes over or ban the private-owned crypto business they will use it to the advantage of the devil.
The key difference with the CBDC is the central bank will have absolute control on the rules and regulations that will determine the use of that expression of central bank liability, and also we will have the technology to enforce that.”
According to the Bank for International Settlements (BIS) (www.healthimpactnews.com) the gall to claim that CBDCs should respect privacy rights, when in fact the whole architecture, rationale, and design of central bank digital currencies will allow central banks and national authorities to invade totally on privacy rights.
Although central banks will claim that they are introducing CBDCs for reasons such as improving payments efficiency, boosting financial inclusion for the unbanked, and tackling illicit transactions, their real motivations, as always, are for surveillance and control.
Surveillance of a population via complete visibility into financial transaction flow and user identities, and centralized control of the money supply within a cashless financial system.
It’s an agenda from the pit of hell
Open up your eyes and see what the devil and his agents are doing. Don’t be in the darkness of what is coming ahead.
They are planning total control of the population via their finances. You will not buy or sell if you are not going to be in their system.
Account-based CBDCs will be tied to user identities and Digital IDs, and straight off the bat they allow for total surveillance by the State and torpedo any chance of anonymity. For this reason, account-based favorites among central banks.
Given that CBDCs will be centralized ledgers and can be programmable, the ‘digital cash’ token option is not much better in terms of privacy and freedom.
It is the platform for Antichrist to cause many to take the mark of the beasts. It may look as if we are going wise but the truth is we are being deceived by the devils’ agents.
“And he causeth all, both small and great, rich and poor, free and bond, to receive a mark in their right hand, or in their foreheads: and that no man might buy or sell, save he that had the mark, or the name of the beast, or the number of his name.”
No relationship or marriage had ever ended or broken up with a happy goodbye to each other. And before there was a breakup there was a heated argument, disagreement or misunderstanding, or even maltreatment against one person in the union. This disagreement or misunderstanding or maltreatment now created emotional wounds that were heavy and difficult to heal and that’s what then now leads to break up.
Before you think about going back to your ex-lover after a breakup or divorce, kindly think about these things;
1) Do I truly still love my ex or am I afraid of not meeting someone better if I move on with my life?
2) Does my ex still love me or am I just forcing myself on my ex-lover? My ex wouldn’t have allowed us to break up if he truly loved me the way I love him or her.
3) Did he accept his faults, errors, maltreatment, and abuse? The things that lead to our break up.
4) Since he didn’t apologize for what he did, that means he will not value me if I go back to him for a reunion.
5) Is he still single after our breakup, for him to move on with another lady or for her to move on with another guy simply means he knows what he’s doing and the breakup was a game plan.
6) He said he loves me but after our breakup, I haven’t seen his call or message either for an apology or to tell me romantically that he is missing me and he’s ready for the reunion.
7) He has already told our friends that our breakup was all my fault, he makes it look like I am not good for relationships or Marriage. Is this not scandalous?
8) Will your ex does not play with your heart because you came back to him after being treated badly which leads to the break you had with him?
9) Am I truly still in love with my ex or is this infatuation or am lusting after my ex because of the love we made in the past when we were dating? You need to be very sure that you are truly thinking about your ex simply because you still love him or her and not because you are missing his or her lovemaking style. You have to truly be sure.
Is not a crime to reunite with your ex-lover but you have to be sure that what you are perceiving is love and not lust or infatuation.
The rules of style and dressing could appear simple sometimes, but, there are common style mistakes that could jeopardize your success in your workplace. Read on to learn about these style mistakes and how to avoid them …
A friend of mine hosted a birthday get-together last weekend for his wife and I was invited. At the event, he introduced me to his younger brother who recently got a bank job.
He said he wanted me to give him some tips on how to look sharp and make a great impression once he resumes in his new role; and in addition, upgrade his wardrobe with new corporate wear – suits, shirts, shoes, and accessories.
We engaged in a brief discussion about his new job and I realized that this was his very first corporate job and he didn’t have many suits. He told me that he only managed to get one black suit which he wore all through the various stages of interview process till he finally secured the job.
Lucky Him! Anyway…we scheduled an appointment for the following week.
Now the day we met for his Wardrobe Consultation session, I asked him to put on the same suit he wore all the while he attended the interview just to confirm if it was suitable for work.
My observations: The black suit was not exactly his size, it wasn’t well fitted, he showed me the black socks he wore (black athletic socks) and an ill-fitting shirt with a Red Tie which clearly would never be referred to as a “power tie”.
In summary, he had adhered to the business/formal dress code as required by his bank, however, there were underlying style mistakes that I was able to spot in his entire look which he didn’t notice even when I asked him to guess what was wrong with the outfit.
I made him understand these mistakes and also explained to him that they had to be taken care of if he wants to be taken seriously in his workplace.
Now, the truth is…
It’s isn’t very easy for everyone to adhere to the dress code which covers what they should wear each day of the week at their workplace.
This is because the rule may appear simple and straight to the point, but in an actual sense quite ambiguous.
For example, your HR could say: “YOU SHOULD DRESS IN CORPORATE ATTIRE OR BUSINESS CASUAL EVERYDAY OF THE WEEK“.
Just think about it for a second, when you give everyone the above rule, what mistakes could they possibly make? A lot I assume.
Therefore, it is important that we go a step further in breaking down these dressing rules to ensure everyone will avoid making style mistake that could jeopardize their success in the workplace.
THE 5 MOST COMMON STYLE MISTAKES MEN OFTEN MAKE
1. THEY WOULD WEAR ILL-FITTING SUITS INSTEAD OF NICE WELL-FITTING TAILORED OR READY-MADE SUIT
If there is one basic rule that we preach about here, it is that FIT is KING. No matter how beautiful your outfit is, no matter how well you’ve paired up or combined colors in your outfit, if the fit isn’t perfect, you’ve got the whole outfit wrong. However, if you get the fit right, the rest are secondary.
2. THEY WEAR ILL-FITTING PUFFY DRESS SHIRTS INSTEAD OF NICE FITTED FRENCH CUFF OR SINGLE CUFF DRESS SHIRTS
Once again, the fit is very important. The pictures above say it all. Which do you think looks better?
3. THEY WEAR ATHLETIC SOCKS WITH DRESS SHOE
Avoid wearing athletic socks with dress shoes even if the socks are black, navy blue or gray. Instead, wear appropriate dress socks with your dress shoes.
4. THEY WEAR “UGLY” OVERLY POINTED SHOES INSTEAD OF NICE MEN’S DRESS SHOES
Shoes with rubber sole squared toed and overly pointy toes that turn up at the end do not look stylish. Avoid them at all costs because no one would respect you when you wear them
5. THEY WOULD WEAR OVERLY LONG TROUSERS
Allowing your suit trousers to flow loosely over the top of your shoes isn’t stylish at all. Your trousers should only touch the top of your shoes with no extra fabric bunching around your shoes. In addition, avoid boot-cut trousers in professional settings.
Want to learn how to deal with a nagging partner? One of the things most people don’t like in a relationship especially men is having a partner who nags a lot.
Women are known for their talkative nature but some nag more than others.
Most of the time, the reason they do this is because nagging is a way of expressing all their emotions and sometimes when it feels like they are not heard, they nag to lay more emphasis on an issue.
Find out why
Women nag for a couple of reasons so to be on the safe side, find out why she is nagging.
It’s true that women are sometimes complex and difficult to understand but to be at peace with them and avoid a series of nagging, try probing her if not she’ll just go on and on and you’ll take the heat.
Understand your partner
When in a relationship, you need to know what makes your partner tick and what makes her happy so you can relate better.
Let her cool off
At times, it’s best to just let her cool off steam before reacting.
When women nag, they expect an immediate response from their partner but if you just stay cool and don’t react at once, she’ll wonder why and probably either reduce it or stop completely.
Reacting to her at that time might lead to further quarrels but simply ignoring her would make her calm down.
Try teasing her
When women nag, they sometimes complain about something or are not happy about something.
Try being in a cheerful mood even though you feel angered by her outburst.
Call her pet names.
You can turn around her nags to jokes or teases; this might place her in a lighter mood.
To really know what’s in a woman’s mind, you need to be sensitive by trying to understand her actions and mannerisms.
When she starts acting out, ask her what the problem is in a loving way and I am very sure she’ll respond.
Don’t overthink it
Men are known to be more rational in reasoning but it may not be the same for women.
Nagging constantly can be demoralizing for a man but try not to overthink it.
Know that women will always nag; it all depends on how you manage and handle such nagging so it doesn’t affect you negatively.
Be a listener
When your partner nags, try listening to what she’s saying.
You might relate to the things she’s talking about.
If she’s complaining about things you didn’t do, you could listen and just work on them.
Know that a woman doesn’t just nag for the fun of it.
There’s always a reason for every nagging.
To therefore limit the rate at which she nags, do your own bit by being observant and sensitive to the things that concern her.
Nagging might not completely stop but I am very sure, there will be a considerable difference.
The rate at which marriages are failing nowadays, sometimes I think one would have a better chance of surviving cancer than having a successful marriage. If you hear from this l will go and issue him/ her a Divorce letter.
The reason is, most men go through life and get married without understanding the key elements that make their marriages succeed or fail.
I would like to show Men what they unknowingly do to destroy their marriage in a few easy ways that they should be careful with as they will commit these mistakes and sometimes not even realize that they are killing their marriage. Men need to start to understand that this attitude and behavior makes marriages break and be prepared to work on their marriage and make it work.
1. HUSBAND FREQUENT ABUSIVE LANGUAGE ON HER WIFE It’s amazing how most men think it’s okay to abuse their partner and think it’s a sign of strength when it only shows how weak they are. Husbands frequently abuse their wives and see nothing wrong with it. Most married men today shamelessly tend to act as if their marriage certificate gives them the right to verbally or physically abuse their wives.
2. HUSBAND WHO IS NOT DEFENSIVES
When l said defensive am not only talking of physical defense but also on Spiritual, Mental Emotional Defense. Men who repeatedly become defensive when challenged or criticized by their wives have much higher rates of unhappiness and divorce. Being defensive is not only destructive; it shuts a man off from an extremely valuable source of feedback that comes from his wife. 3. HUSBAND THAT NEVER ADMITS IS WRONG Men have got to be willing to admit when they are wrong. Always remember that your wives are usually in excellent positions to recognize when you are wrong and mean well when they correct you.
They are also usually more than happy to point this out to your shortcomings in the hope that we will make corrections. If you as a man shut out this valuable source of feedback by always seeking to defend your actions or point of view, you will damage your marriage. You will continue to commit the same mistakes, over and over again, until she gets tired of you and this ugly and childish trait.
4. DON’T TRY TO BE MR RIGHT @ all TIME
Do not always want to be right, please. Perhaps the biggest mistake you can make if you want to have a good marriage with your wife is to always try to be right in what you do or say. Why is this so destructive? Because in order for you to be right, your partner must end up being wrong. Most people dislike having others make them feel wrong.
Never always look at winning the argument or getting your way, you’ll pay a price later when your partner decides to move out of your life after they have had enough. It’s almost always wiser to let your partner be right and have their way as much as possible. 5. DON’T REGRET HER FOOD
Don’t try at any time to REGRET our food prepared for you. Because by doing so you hurt her feelings the more. More so when you REGRET her food you make all her Effort to give you good meal to be wasted.
6. NOT ATTENTIVE TO HER
The secret to dealing with criticism from your wives is not to reject it or act defensively but to intently listen to everything she is saying about you, and then try to find one or more things you can agree with. Don’t automatically try to defend yourself or prove you are right. Work hard to validate some of what your partner is saying. Understand that the sting of another’s criticism usually comes with some truth in it. If you want to have a happy, healthy, longs lasting marriage, look for these “truths” and be willing to admit them. 7. BY BEING SELFISH Another way men destroy their marriages is to always be selfish and try to get their own way in everything. Do not only think about your own need, benefits, and desires. Put your concerns first and consider your partner’s like something important too. This is has destroyed so many Marriages and Relationships. Please be careful with this.
8. NOT SATISFYING YOUR WIFE SEXUALLY or SEXUAL PUNISHMENT
A lot of homes have scattered all because of sexual satisfaction or sexual punishment. When a man can not satisfy his wife and make her enjoy her marriage there is a big problem. There should be a difference, when she is not married and when she is married. I mean not you as a husband only satisfy yourself but your wife is not, both of you must enjoy sex together with no cheating. Ask her if she is OK & enjoy it but if she is not pounded on her make her Climax. Some even use sex as a means of punishment to the wife in order to take revenge for her wrongdoing, Very bad.
Also, some wives do such, even in some homes they have SEX Time Table, l don’t say is not good due to some people work, or if the couple are not living together due to traveling or working in a different state or country. But both of you must truly agree on it not that one is cheating on the other. Avoid Sexual punishment in your Marriage relationship in order not to mess up your marriage.
Loneliness is also one of the ways one can mess up his marriage. When your wife always feels lonely while you’re not around and when you’re still around it’s a bad habit. Don’t be two parallel lines, don’t sit away from each other but sit close to each other to feel the intimacy. The greatest killer of life is loneliness, a lot of people have died due to the fact that they don’t have someone to discuss or chat with. Some even commit suicide because of loneliness. Men, Try and get close to your wife so that she can rub your mind with you.
10. HUSBAND BE PROTECTIVE
when a man is not protective there will be a misunderstanding between them. A man must protect her wife both physically, Emotionally, Mentally, and Spiritually. He must protect her wife from her relatives insulting her wife, because if he fails and they insult her automatically the man is the one they insulted. He must be protected in the Area of prayer, shield your wife & home with prayer. Umbrella when it rains & under the Sun.
11. HUSBAND TREAT YOUR WIFE LIKE A CHILD.
Husband try & treat your wife like a child. They say we men are their Babies sucking Breast been breastfeeding by them.
Husband try and treat your wife well because they are a Child in your hands that needs care, bring her up in some Area she lacks behind, teach her, Nurture her, Pamper her and lastly Show her Love. Let her know you care for her by doing so you win her heart. You will just see she obey your command, honor & respect you as well.
12. HUSBAND DON’T KEEP UNNECESSARY SECRET
In order for her to love you so as not to keep an unnecessary secret from her. Keeping unnecessary secrets can cause her not to Trust you anymore which can jeopardize your marriage.
13. DON’T ALLOW FAMILY MEMBERS TO DOMINATE HER
You as a husband don’t allow in any way for any of your family to dominate over her and be dictating over her life. Don’t sell her Cheap or Use her as a Trade by Barter.
Note: Husband, you must understand that your Wife needs this from you; Your Attention. Your Protection. Your Affection. Your Care and Your LOVE.
Long Distance Relationships, is one of the Relationships so many have been in, no individual has been in it and enjoyed it like when you are in the same area with your partner, that’s either in the same locality or the same state that both of you always see each other as you want.
Below is the negative effect of Long Distance Relationships.
Causes High blood pressure due to the fact that you don’t know the fate of your partner.
He or she may be professing love to you through phone calls, through social media but you don’t really know what’s going on in your back.
Break down in concentration.
In order to pay attention to your partner, you are likely to break down in concentration. To so many people, they have lost focus while trying to please their partner in a long-distance relationship.
The time you want to do one domestic work or the other or pay attention to some certain things that you need to do is the time the person could be demanding your attention through the phone call or through social media and this is challenging because you will like to show love to your partner.
Sensitivity and being carried away from both gender around you.
Desperation due to temptations of wanting to hook up by both gender. The person in the long-distance relationship with you may be in a serious relationship with someone else right where he is staying without your knowledge.
For instance; A lady is in a long-distance relationship with a man that is already happily married with kids. The man always professes love to her and keeps on posting to her that he will come to see her and all that, but in reality, the guy is just wasting her time. (It happens to both man and woman)
Uncertainty of your relationship partner towards you.
Your partner may be professing love to you but do you really know where the relationship is heading? What’s the final destination of your relationship with him or her? Is it truly leading to Marriage? From the handwriting on the wall, (the characters and the attitude of the person towards you) do you think it’s going well or things will negatively change in no time? It’s true that every relationship must not lead to Marriage but are you in this relationship for fun? Be certain of this relationship.
Lack to trust and sometimes a breakdown in communications. Communication is one of the corners Stone of every Relationship even in marriage. No Marriage or Relationship can survive without communication. Trust is also one of the major corner Stone of Relationships and also in Marriage. Whenever any of these two things are shaking then know it that it’s over.
For instance, can you be with someone you don’t trust as your date or your wife? So once communication is no longer strong, there is every tendency that one person in the long-distance relationship will be suspecting the other person of cheating. Because the attention is not there again, which would have come through communication and communication would have to bring trust.
Long Distance Relationships are not advisable for anyone, the negative effect of it is more powerful than the positive effect it.
Time runs fast in your prime years and without knowing you will finally realize that you have knocked on 30 and you still have nothing to show for it.
This is time for self-discovery- a time to do better, get better, and achieve some goals.
Below are some things young ladies in their 20s should stop doing.
Pleasing people you do not like
Your 20s are busy, and crucial in a lot of ways to the success of the rest of your life, so time is limited. It’s precious, and you no longer have it to waste on people who aren’t your true friends. Being polite and civil is a must, but you no longer have to please those who aren’t your friends.
Don’t worry about sending a birthday message to someone you went to secondary school with if she hasn’t spoken to you for many months. Forget attending that hang out with those old work colleagues if you never liked them from the start. Quit the pretense.
It’s nice if somebody invites you to their wedding or party, but if you aren’t friends with them anymore, or do not want to keep in touch, don’t go. Make time for your friends, the people you care about, and the people who are there for you, and release the others.
For your own good and that of your future self, spending recklessly is something you need to leave behind as soon as possible. We know everything is expensive and it’s nearly impossible to save, but that doesn’t mean you have to be irresponsible with your money.
Take the time to sit down, work out a budget and discover what you’re willing to spend money on, and what you can cut back on. The 20s aren’t about comfort and luxury for everyone, and despite the pressure on social media, you’ll probably regret it if you make yours about having a new outfit every weekend so that the girls you went to university with will think that you’re cool.
Not being careful about relationship choices
For the sake of your bruised heart, try your best not to repeat your relationship mistakes as the years go on. We’ve all made silly choices when it comes to dating and this is the absolute truth.
But guess what? That has to stop now that you’re a strong, independent woman in control of your life! Repeating a relationship mistake and re-learning a lesson you should have learned a long time ago would not help your self-esteem.
Constantly seeking approval
Hard as it is to recognize, you actually don’t have to cater to the opinions or demands of others, and the sooner you learn that, the better. The best thing is to drop that habit as soon as you can because it can only lead to your unhappiness.
We know that it’s natural to want to be liked and to want people to pay attention to us, tell us we’re amazing, and approve of what we do. The truth is that we’re never going to get that kind of reaction from everybody, so trying to get this is really pointless.
Procrastinating on your goals
In your 20s, you can no longer afford to be putting off your goals. Of course, you’re still young, and you will still learn and chase things every year for the rest of your life.
You should know that when it comes to success in any field, the more prepared you are, the better. The more work you put in, the better.
Don’t wait for tomorrow to enroll in that course you want to do or travel to that country you want to see. Talk to people, research, work hard, take risks, and make things happen!
You are the only person who can get yourself to where you want to be, so there’s no reason to not start today. Chase those goals, and keep trying to get better at your given field.
Not knowing how to cook
Even if you’re still living at home, as a woman in her 20s, you should be able to prepare a meal in little or no time. This has nothing to do with gender issues, instead, it has everything to do with being a functioning and responsible adult.
Also, wasting your money eating out or ordering in food every night is just silly and would do you no good in the long run.
Not getting enough sleep
Sleep is one of the fundamental elements of a healthy lifestyle, and though we have many things to do and think of, we should never play with our sleep.
Sleep is non-negotiable. It honestly makes everything better, from your thinking power to your mood to your skin.
Common problems that bother many young adults, like anxiety, are almost always worse when you don’t get enough sleep and this is something you should totally avoid.
Being lazy and unnecessarily dirty
Letting laziness get in the way of a made bed or washing the dishes is something that your 19-year-old self would have done, but of course, you are no longer a teenager and you just have to up your game.
You deserve to live in a clean environment (either you live alone or have a room in your parent’s house).
Take time to look good, dress well, wear clean clothes and keep your hygiene good.
Having poor social and table manners
Bad table manners aren’t even tolerable on children past a certain age, so you should really learn the basics by the time you’re an adult. It really isn’t that difficult, trust us when we say so.
Here are a few: don’t talk with your mouth full, don’t wipe your hands on your shirt, don’t reach across people to get the salt, and don’t sit there on your phone when somebody is talking to you. It’s just plain politeness!
You might not see how being polite makes a difference, but society generally works better when we’re all civilized and considerate of each other’s feelings. You just don’t want to do anything that makes others uncomfortable or makes you look like you don’t care.
A Turkish woman has been sentenced to five months in prison for allegedly “insulting men” in a tweet that the court was told read “I don’t like men”.
Pinar Yildirim, a 34-year-old book author and influencer campaigning for women’s rights, said it is shocking that she was being jailed for something that she didn’t even write, which can be seen in the tweet, which is still online today.
She had tweeted to her 1.9 million followers, “I still like men” but the court was shown a tweet that reads, “I don’t like men”.
Pinar Yildirim’s tweet after a statement by Turkish media authorities implied watching Netflix encourages homosexuality.
Yildirim said: “RTUK (Radio and Television Supreme Council) made a statement that Netflix content encourages homosexuality. They had a gay character removed from the series named Ask 101 (Love 101).
“I posted this tweet based on that. A sensible person knows that by watching TV, he/she will not be gay.”
She added: “I’ve watched so many gay TV shows, I’ve finished movie after movie, no, no! I still like the vile, characterless sex called men….”
But shockingly when she got to court, her tweet “I still like men” had been changed to “I don’t like men” in the case file.
The 34-year-old is now appealing the conviction which will see her jailed for five months if she loses.
She said jailing a woman for this tweet didn’t make sense in a country where “women are humiliated, insulted and harassed in every field”.
Speaking to Newsflash, she said: “The case is currently on appeal.”
She claimed that her sentence was an “unprecedented case” in Turkey, adding: “Recently, the court decided not to prosecute a male individual who cursed a female journalist and most importantly made a death threat.
“Women are humiliated, insulted and harassed in every field, and our courts prefer to be insensitive to these issues for some reason.”
Yildirim added: “Systematically, my tweets were already being reported to the police by a certain group. I go to the police station almost every week to testify.
“People were looking at it as if nothing would come out of this case, and everyone was shocked, of course.
“Except for a small group of guys, they were rejoicing. Even the prison sentence was not enough for them, there were also those who wanted me dead and wrote in detail about how they would rape me.”
Respect and trust are the foundation of any relationship to flourish. If you do not have the reasons to believe that, then you’re in trouble.
What I am hearing increasingly from young girls all over the world is that they stumble on the immature mama’s boys.
At first, these guys are such a joy to spend time with. They are very relaxed, nice, easy-going, lovable…everything. However, they are lacking one crucial aspect: maturity.
If you are looking for a long-lasting relationship, you don’t need an aspiring boyfriend. Instead, you’ll need an adult.
You need someone to communicate your problems to and not someone who will sweep them under the rug. Usually, they all swear and pretend they are like that, but later they live up to their ‘mama’s boy’ name.
Immature and emotional men can impact the quality that your marriage has. They’re like weeds in the rosebush that needs to be removed.
If you’re sick and exhausted from trying to do everything all by yourself, then you’re better off on your own than being in a relationship in which you must take care of someone.
1. He isn’t sure what to do.
In some situations, he acts up. He may even embarrass you. He doesn’t get that certain behavior is not appropriate. He actually acts like a kid.
It’s the same when you have to keep reminding your child what’s wrong and what’s right. It’s the same with emotionally immature men.
2. He’s selfish
He puts his needs first. It’s okay to respect and love yourself, so it doesn’t turn into narcissism. He’s a little more narcissistic rather than the self-loving side.
You can’t really count on him to be there for you, regardless of whether his life is in danger as well.
3. He isn’t able to commit.
He’s at the party scene and will remain so. He’s not able to be a good friend or commit to anyone because the emotional distance isn’t there.
He’s not going to make any kind of an agreement with anyone or even with you, because he’s aware that something exciting and fascinating could come out.
4. He doesn’t speak about his feelings.
He’s always making jokes and is unable to speak about anything serious.
Even when you inform him that he should stop and that it’s not the time to be laughing, he’ll still play up the incident to avoid engaging in the middle of a serious discussion. It’s incredibly immature of him not to acknowledge your feelings, as well as his own.
5. When things get tough, the man pulls away
In times of stress in stressful situations, he’ll ignore you. Because of his lack of maturity and inexperience, he’s not an equal partner with you.
He doesn’t think about things as seriously. He pretends not to be concerned. Perhaps it’s an approach to dealing with problems. But this isn’t the way to go.
It’s not your intention to be the person who holds all the power. Such relationships will take away your energy.
Relations are supposed to be about partnerships and making your partners into the best version of yourselves, not taking crumbs from what’s meant to be the best behind someone else.
An African lady is being hailed online after photos of her hair business which she operates from under a tree in her vicinity, surfaced online. The photos showed the lady with her equipment displayed including a hairdryer, hair wash compartment, and others.
Many applauded her for making use of what she has at her disposal to eke a living instead of waiting for when she has an operational building to run her business. She even put a TV set there for her customers
There’s nothing better than a chilled glass of sugarcane juice on a hot summer day. But, have you wondered what are the benefits of sugarcane juice? Sugarcane, a grass plant that can be found in 36 varieties, has no fats and is a 100 percent natural drink.
An 8-ounce serving, approximately 240 ml of sugarcane juice (with no additives) contains 250 calories, with 30 gm natural sugars. It has zero content of fat, cholesterol, fiber, and protein but contains sodium, potassium, calcium, magnesium, and iron. You would think that this sugar-rich drink is a popular summer drink that keeps you hydrated. However, it has numerous health benefits but we’ve rounded up 10 of them for you.
Benefits of Sugarcane Juice
1. Sugarcane juice gives you a shot of instant energy
There’s a reason sugarcane juice sells at most roadside kiosks in summer. It’s the best way to energize yourself and ensure you don’t experience dehydration. The simple sugars in the juice are easily absorbed by the body and are used to replenish sugar levels.
2. Enhances liver function
Sugarcane juice is said to be one of the best natural treatments for liver-related ailments such as jaundice. Since sugarcane juice is alkaline in nature, it helps in maintaining the electrolyte balance in the body.
3. Help the body fight cancer
The high concentration of calcium, magnesium, potassium, iron, and manganese makes sugarcane juice alkaline in nature. The presence of flavonoids helps the body stave off cancerous cells, especially prostate and breast cancer.
4. It eases the digestive system
Among other benefits of sugarcane juice it also is exceptional for people suffering from digestive distress. The potassium in sugarcane juice balances the pH levels in the stomach, facilitates the secretion of digestive juices, and keeps the system on track. It also helps prevent stomach infections.
5. Sugarcane Juice helpful for people with diabetes
Though the high sugar content in sugarcane juice may make diabetics wary of consuming this juice. But, in moderation, sugarcane juice can benefit diabetics, the natural sugar has a low glycemic index that prevents frequent spikes in blood glucose levels.
6. Maintains kidney health
Being a natural low-cholesterol, low-sodium food, with no saturated fats, sugarcane juice helps to keep the kidneys in top shape.
7. It alleviates pain associated with STDs & UTIs
If consumed in a diluted form, with lime juice and coconut water, sugarcane juice can help reduce body inflammation that can be caused by sexually transmitted diseases, urinary tract infections, kidney stones, and prostatitis.
8. Aids in the development of bones and teeth
Back in the day, chewing on a sugarcane stick used to be a regular pastime for young children and adolescents. Apart from keeping them occupied, the calcium-rich benefits of sugarcane juice also ensures proper development of the skeletal system, bones, and teeth.
9. Keeps bad breath & tooth decay at bay
Experiencing bad breath linked to tooth decay? Sugarcane juice can be your saving grace. Sugarcane is rich in minerals, including calcium and phosphorus, and also helps build tooth enamel and strengthen teeth, ensuring they are prone to decay. It also overcomes bad breath caused due to the deficiency of these nutrients.
10. The Benefits of Sugarcane Juice can help cure acne
Topical use of sugarcane juice has the ability to help reduce and cure skin problems such as acne. Since, sugarcane juice contains alpha-hydroxy acids (AHAs) like glycolic acid, it increases cell turnover. They also exfoliate the skin, eliminating chances of acne buildup. Simply mix the juice with Fuller’s earth (multanimitti) into a mask-like consistency, apply on the face and neck and leave on for 20 minutes. Finally, wash off with cool water.
The sugar contained in sugarcane juice is natural, but keep in mind that it is essentially sugar. Consume this healthy beverage in moderation and run it past our Coaches if you suffer from a medical condition.
The girl might require to have a man in her life to be a woman due to the stability the man can bring to her. Some people might be able to change their own. Sometimes, destiny puts people in situations where they must achieve their goals. Be aware that the moment you push yourself to your limits and achieve some goals in your life is when you transform for the better. It could be due to a tragic event or a break-up, or a relationship that has been broken, or just sheer willpower. A mature person does not see the world as a series of fragments. They perceive it as a single unit. They recognize that they must be in harmony with the team to get larger and advance in life.
I’m not saying that being in a relationship with an undeveloped person will result in a weak connection, as it’s the change in the relationship that makes a relationship stronger. We all like to develop with their partners, and I know that I did. I’ve never dreamed of a man. I would have a boyfriend for myself as I had a desire to develop with him. I wanted to know more about him and the world around me, but that wasn’t my personal preference. Being with someone who is mature can bring happiness and comfort in daily life.
1. She will be tuned emotionally
A mature woman won’t get caught up in trivial things. She can better understand your needs because she knows herself and her feelings. She stays in control of her surroundings and is aware of dealing with the challenges they bring. When she encounters difficult situations, she can rise up to them and seek solutions that are less damaging to her relationship and other people around her.
2. She’s not afraid of speaking her mind. says what she wants to.
She is a realist and doesn’t believe that everything needs to be made sugar-coated. She can present her side of the argument in the least offending manner. She’s not afraid of having to tell the truth and accept the consequences of her actions. If she feels that a relationship is not perfect or requires improvement, she will act rather than pretend they aren’t there. She will not be afraid to discuss things and work them out for both of you.
3. She is accountable for her relationship
She is responsible, however, for some of her forever daydreams. Women aren’t immune to it. Regardless of how old we grow, we’ll be daydreaming about things. It’s natural for us. We are sensitive beings, and sometimes we need a break from the world’s distractions. A mature woman doesn’t let her relationship go unnoticed and knows that it’s a two-way journey, and she’s more than willing to do whatever it takes to enhance it. It is clear that love isn’t just a once-in-a-lifetime thing, yet she handles each relationship as if it were a once-in-a-lifetime event.
4. She is quieter and performs harder.
She has lovely words to talk about, but she believes in the power of words to make them a reality. So, for example, if she believes that the garden will be beautiful by lighting it up, It is not a must to talk about it, but she could go out to purchase the lights, set them in the garden, and then surprise you.
5. She makes a smile appear on your face
There’s something about her appearance that is sure to cause you to shiver. It’s impossible to hold back your anger; you’ll be smiling the second you look at her. She will be your model of perfection, not just because she gets everything done the way you want it, instead because she has things done in her way, and you’ve learned to accept her uniqueness. Ladies, if you’re already doing that, you may be heading towards maturation.
6. A mature woman has fewer arguments and is more accommodating
She won’t debate useless things. Instead, the arguments she makes will be clear and relevant. If you encounter a problem that you strongly agree with an opinion on her approach, she’ll find an avenue to get around it and come to a conclusion on which you both can agree.
7. She is respectful of elders and loves children.
She values and cherish every relationship that she has. She is a lover of spending time with children. Though she might differ in opinion, she still respects her parents and you.
8. She understands
She is aware that things do not always go the plan you had in mind and is prepared to face the challenges that life throws at her. Every time she has a problem, she finds an opportunity to love you more and better. If you’re a mess, she may not wish to be around her anymore, but she will be able to see your part in the story and accept the wrongs you’ve done.
9. She isn’t fooled twice.
You might be let free of the burden for something you did. However, she will not allow you to get away with it twice. Instead, she will go to the source of the problem and eliminate the issue. Sorry, but that’s the way mature women are wired.
If you’re not looking for such a commitment, you should find mature, confident, self-sufficient women who don’t allow anyone to degrade her.
Two people who feel strongly towards each other, strong enough to bring their feelings, enter a relationship. People don’t willingly enter a one-sided relationship where there isn’t any love from either side. Let’s face it, and if people could look into the future and see whether their relationships lasted or not, the world would be a happier place.
A lot of things can happen, which results in a relationship going south. Some of these factors are beyond our control; however, most of them are easily avoided if two partners genuinely try to work through them. This isn’t the article where you’re given ways to avoid an unhappy relationship; instead, it’s one of those which might reveal that your fears were true: your partner is unhappy in the relationship.
Now, it’s one thing when they come up to you and tell you that they’re unhappy, and that’s as evident as it gets. However, sometimes you’re left feeling confused about whether or not they are unhappy. Outwardly, they seem pretty okay with things, but you get a weird gut feeling which keeps you up at night.
1. Life’s boring
Let me just clear something up right here because I can feel all of the comments of ‘well, duh’ rolling in. I know that eventually, two people begin to lead a very normal life. The date nights and the parties etc., start to get more limited. Now, some people are of the sort who’ll never let the excitement die out and others who keep it to a minimum. Neither of them is unhappy. The ones who are unhappy have an opposite life.
There’s nothing to talk about, and I mean nothing. Like, you two will go on date nights and feel like you would rather be doing something else. Had you two been fighting, it would’ve made the situation easier to comprehend. ‘Oh, they are mad right now, so they aren’t talking. Yet, you two haven’t been fighting, but still, it’s hard to come up with anything to talk about.
The weird part is that you two have topics to talk about. You want to tell him about that incident today, but you can’t seem to bring it up. They seem so uninterested in everything, like they’d rather be anywhere but here. It feels so forced that it’s not very comforting.
2. They try to avoid any talks about the relationship:
No one likes to be nagged 24/7 about petty things in a relationship. I get that. However, some things aren’t petty, and two people need to talk about them for the relationship to progress.
Communication is key, and without communication, you’re living with a stranger. A basic sign for any unhappy relationship is that the partners feel awkward when talking about their feelings with one another.
They feel like what they say might nag their partner or make them feel uncomfortable. This may be true or may not be, but the fact is that you can’t directly talk to them about anything. This might be a result of one of two things; you once did talk about relationship stuff, and he brushed it off, so you thought you shouldn’t anymore, or you two talk so rarely about anything which requires an emotional connection that it just feels out-of-place.
3. You don’t feel as hurt as you should over sure things:
Some things completely screw up relationships and sure things which bring cracks in it. Regardless, both of these things are to be avoided if you want your relationship to be a happy one. However, even if your partner does something which should have made you feel slightly upset, you feel numb to it. You might think that you’re crazy to do this, but you feel there’s no point in anything.
This is the absolute last straw. It is one thing when you’re so in love with your partner that anything they do makes you feel like it’s alright, and it’s another when you’re so out of love that you’re numb to anything horrible. Regardless, both of these are worst-case scenarios.
4. You begin to long after something else:
At the very beginning of your relationship, you so swoon with your partner that you imagine them in every single scenario there is. You cannot see yourself without them. Eventually, it goes to becomes less and less frequent. Hey, there’s nothing wrong with them being less frequent because that means that you’re busy and preoccupied with other things. However, it should be regarded as a sign of an unhappy relationship when you no longer feel that strong connection.
Everyone, even couples, needs their space, and that’s understandable. You cannot expect two people to be all up in each other’s faces all the time simply because they love each other. Yet, it isn’t healthy if you’ve stopped wanting them in your life. The problem with most unhappy couples is that they’ve been unhappy for so long that they’ve gotten used to it by now. They cannot escape that and feel like anything they do will damage the equilibrium.
Being Cheated on is a horrible feeling. Nothing is more gut-wrenching, distressing and excruciatingly painful than discovering your partner was having an affair with someone else.
It’s depressing. The thoughts keep ringing in your head every day. Your partner has just defiled the sacred bond you had. Their words, their lips and their bodies were given to someone else. It’s painful to think about.
However, you can still salvage the relationship. Sometimes good people make mistakes, horrible mistakes even, but if you think they’re worth it, you could try the most difficult thing in the world. Forgiveness!
Forgiveness is not easy, your mind keeps playing tricks on you. You replay the scenes in your head and you start feeling insecure. Sometimes it’s so hurtful that many can’t imagine being with their partner ever again and so they break up. Still, I believe everyone deserves a second chance.
If you’re willing to consider giving your partner a second chance, here are 3 Steps to help you repair your relationship.
Your partner has to be remorseful, they have to show that they regret their actions. If they’re nonchalant about it, then there’s no point. It shows a lack of respect and they’ll do it again.
Your partner must cut off all forms of communication with whoever they cheated with. This is essential for your mental stability and to rebuild the relationship. Continuous communication between your partner and the other person would lead to a recurrence of the affair and you don’t want that.
Finally, you have to decide to stop thinking about what your partner did. I know this is difficult to do as your mind keeps replaying the incident over and over again.
Sometimes, it would get to a stage where every time your partner gives you a compliment, you’d think to yourself, “Is this what he told her too? Is this what she told him? Is this how she hugged him?”
These thoughts can drive you crazy and that’s understandable. Still, now that you’ve decided to offer a second chance, try to put these thoughts behind you. Whenever they come (as they always will), don’t let them get to you, think about something else or better still, call your partner and discuss with them. It doesn’t have to be a serious discussion, just hearing their voice would allay your fears.
In summary, one thing you should know is this: Time heals all wounds. With time, you’ll be fine.
High court in Zimbabwe has ordered a newly married gay couple to be put under house arrest for 12 months and if by the end of the period none of them is pregnant, the court further ordered a death penalty.
Personally, I support the punishment with my full chest. WHY?
The natural law is clear. Man was created and given the obligation to procreate. Marriage is the cornerstone and pilar to that noble duty.
Our African values protects this natural law, and if we are to bend and allow such, we must first be shown that this new, western culture will uphold the natural law and continue procreation.
And you, Do you Support this?
Zimbabwe Court Sentences Gay Couple To One Year House Arrest, Death Penalty If One Don’t Get Pregnant
Kenyan government have banned a local dance known as ‘Kwara Kwara’ in Kacheliba sub-county West Pokot county, saying it has increased sexual appetite and early pregnancies in youths.
Kacheliba Deputy County Commissioner Kennedy Kiprop who announced the ban, said chiefs and their assistants should crack the whip and arrest those found disobeying the ban.
Kiprop also said since the dance became popular, there has been a steady increase in the number of girls dropping out of school due to early pregnancies, leading to early marriages.
“There is this new dance called Kwara Kwara that is popular among the youth and which has led to immorality among them. I am banning it with immediate effect. All the chiefs and their assistants should crack the whip and arrest those found disobeying the ban.
“I am urging you, locals, not to allow youths in the villages to hold this dance as it is really derailing the gains we had made in educating our children, especially the girls.”
Nothing kills communication between couples these days faster than pulling out their smartphone.
Although technology has helped us in many significant ways, it is fast becoming a harbinger of doom for many relationships. A lot of breakups in recent times are caused either directly or indirectly because of what one partner does with their phone.
Probably your relationship has been suffering from the all too familiar symptoms; bae forgets you are there once he gets busy on his phone or he complains that you give more attention to what is happen on your phone than you give to him.
Before things get out of hand, now is the time to make adjustments where necessary.
To help you take the first step towards saving your relationship from technological ruin, use these 4 simple tips
1. Set boundaries
The mistake most couples make is failure to set boundaries for the use of their phones and other devices. Ensure that you state clearly when you can use phones while in each other’s company so that you both don’t end up feeling neglected by the other.
2. Keep track of the time you spend online when your partner is around
It’s so easy to get lost online by linking one domain via another till the time is gone. Keeping track of how much time you spend at a go while with your partner will keep you free for communication when they need you. Saying ‘I’m listening’ while scrolling through your phone is never a good way to show that you are actually listening.
3. Share your ‘phone-time’ with your partner
As damaging as using your device can be to your relationship, when used well, it can also foster better communication between you and your partner. A good way to do this is by sharing whatever you are doing on your phone with your partner. For instance, showing them a cute or funny picture you found online can open a channel of communication for both of you.
4. Know when enough is enough
Couples have the tendency to overlook complaints from their partner when it comes to how much time they spend on the phone. In order to avoid arguments that may escalate to bigger issues, take your partner seriously once they complain about it. People usually mean it when they say they feel neglected, so take note of that.