WHO figures show that 1 in 4 adults don’t exercise enough

The World Health Organisation (WHO) says one in four adults of global population does not exercise enough, calling for better and fairer opportunities for physical activity to improve overall health.

WHO figures show that 1 in 4 adults don’t exercise enough. [verywellfit]

The UN health agency said in a new advocacy brief with the theme, ’Fair Play: Building a strong physical activity system for more active people’ that up to five million premature deaths a year could be prevented if the global population was more active.

The brief was released during WHO’s final webinar in a series convened to discuss the impact of the Coronavirus (COVID-19) on sport and physical activity.

According to WHO, many people live in areas with little or no access to spaces where they can safely walk, run, cycle or engage in other physical activities and where opportunities do exist, older adults or people with disabilities may simply not have access to them.

In the brief the global body urged decision-makers across the health, sport, education and transport sectors, to promote the benefits more.

“There is an urgent need to provide people with better opportunities to live active healthy lives.”

“Today, the possibility for people to take part in physical activity is uneven and unfair.

“This inequity has only gotten worse during the COVID-19 pandemic,” said WHO Deputy Director-General, Zsuzsanna Jakab.

WHO statistics reveal that one in four adults, and four out of five adolescents, do not get enough physical activity.

Women are less active than men, with more than an eight per cent difference at the global level (32 per cent men, just 23 per cent for women).

High income countries are home to more inactive people (37 per cent), compared with middle income (26 per cent) and low-income countries (16 per cent).

WHO guidelines recommend adults should do at least 150 to 300 minutes of moderate to vigorous aerobic activity per week while children and adolescents should do an average of 60 minutes per day.

The brief highlights the main challenges and opportunities and calls for all partners to strengthen collaborations and support countries to scale up actions in this area.

Solutions that work include sustained community campaigns, inclusive programmes in local communities, and safer environments that support more walking and cycling, for everyone.

The Head of the Physical Activity Unit at WHO, Fiona Bull, said that the brief “provides clear messages to all who work, to create a more active society”.

“WHO is calling for industries, civil society and governments, as well as UN agencies, to build a common vision for creating more active societies through sport, walking, cycling and playing,” she added.

The agency identifies three key actions: stronger partnerships across sectors; stronger governance structures and regulations; as well as broader, deeper, and innovative financing mechanisms.

The advocacy brief responds to the UN Secretary General Antonio Guterres’ call for sport and physical activity to broaden its contribution to meet the Sustainable Development Goals.

The agency also encourages countries to implement the policy actions outlined in the WHO Global action plan on physical activity 2018-2030 to achieve the target of an increase in physical activity by 15 per cent by 2030.

Kenyan man accused of killing his wife for saying he wasn’t good enough after they had sex

Stephen Nyangeri Mauti at Milimani Law Courts Nairobi

A Kenyan man, Stephen Nyangeri Mauti, was charged with manslaughter for allegedly killing his wife, Faith Nyatichi, after she told him he was not good enough when they had sex.

The incident, according to k24tv, occurred at Kangemi dumpsite within Kangemi sub-county, Nairobi county on October 3, 2021. 

According to a cover report produced in court on Friday, October 14, the deceased visited the accused in Kangemi Hill view area where they have rented a house after relocating from Nyeri where they were staying as a couple since August 2021.

It is alleged that the deceased left her husband to go visit her ‘cousin’ in Kiserian and after a while, he called her to know when she would be back only for her to inform him she had travelled to the village

“On further inquires, the accused was informed that his wife has no relatives in Kiserian and that she had not travelled to the rural area” the report read in part.

The accused claimed he asked his wife’s brother who informed him that they do not have a cousin in Kiserian

It is alleged that on October 1, 2021, the accused received a call from his wife promising to visit him since he was unwell.

True to her promise, she visited. On arrival, she prepared lunch which they took together, then went for a leisure walk within Kangemi market and later returned to their home. The deceased prepared supper which they ate and went to bed.

According to the police report, they had a conversation but did not reach an agreement since the deceased kept crying so they had sex and slept.

On October 3, 2021, they woke up and the deceased prepared breakfast. As they were taking tea, the accused is alleged to have convinced her not to leave him for another man.

The accused in his statement stated that after the breakfast he confronted her with the truth that she was living with another man. He says the woman then started shouting at him that he is not man enough after the night experience.

The accused told the police that he grabbed her and tried to calm her by blocking her mouth to no avail.

He says he thought she had calmed down when she went silent only to realise she was unconscious. He called neighbours to rush her to hospital but she was pronounced dead on arrival.

Nairobi Senior Principal Magistrate, Bernard Ochoi has ordered a mental examination to be carried out on the accused person in order to ascertain his mental status before sentencing him on October 17, 2021.

Man seen in the streets of London wearing cardboard that reads: “I cheated on my girlfriend and this is my punishment”

London residents reported seeing a man wearing a cardboard that reads, “I cheated on my girlfriend on Thursday and this is my punishment.”

People reported sighting him in Euston, Liverpool, and at Waterloo.

The man’s action has led to people sharing their opinions about him and his girlfriend,  with many saying the girlfriend doesn’t love him.

However,  others have suggested he was most likely taking part in a social experiment or a campaign.

LADIES WHO BEG TO BE LOVED

LIABILITIES

These ones have not developed themselves in ANY area (spiritually, financially, mentally) and have NOTHING tangible beyond their body to offer or contribute in a relationship or marriage.

LADIES WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM

They have much to offer, they are a blessing, they carry favor, beat and brains, but for several reasons, they think and feel otherwise.. They lack an understanding of WHO they are, and how lucky a Man actually is to have them.

They believe that any Man who agrees to date them is doing them a favor, so they manage and constantly beg to be Loved.

DESPERATE ONES

When desperate, a lady will settle for way less than she knows she deserves. She will keep silent in the face of physical/emotional abuse, endure insults and assaults from a Man even when she is dying, even pay the guy money because she just wants to be in a relationship/married. A desperate lady will not only BEG, she will also COMPROMISE her convictions, principles and Faith

.A desperate Lady will ignore obvious red flags. A desperate Lady will not listen to counsel anymore.

Then we have the REAL WOMAN.

A Real Woman knows her true Worth, irrespective of her height, complexion, size, shape, occupation, background or current financial situation.

A Real Woman has made herself an asset, she knows what she can bring to the table. A Real Woman wants a Man to love her, but she will not beg a Man to love her.

A Real woman doesn’t use her body/sex to keep a Man.

A Real Woman attracts a Real Man.

The Problem With Masturbation

So many people don’t know masturbation create serious problems till they get married. Both sex masturbate. Girls masturbate as much as boys do, they just don’t talk about it. People masturbate on the excuse that they do not want to fornicate but since their bodies are burning they’ve gotta find a means of release before they burn to death.

Let’s talk about sex a little. The real enjoyment in sex comes when a man can go in, hold it, thrust in and out for a long time before ejaculating. I’ve got to get real with singles here because most people set the wrong foundation for their marriages and ruin their chances of ever enjoying sex forever.

A man needs to “hold it” for as long as possible before shooting because once he shoots that’s the end of the show. The wife is left helpless with her body crying for more but the man can’t go further because he is completely done, worn out and weak.

Here is where masturbation ruin your sex life.

The man is used to getting a release WITHOUT WAITING, he has formed a habit of going solo and getting a release as soon as the pressure for sex comes on him, of course, since he is not married, he does not understand the consequences.

After marriage, he suffers from PREMATURE EJACULATION. Some men’s case are so worse that while the woman is still undressing, he has already masturbated and wet himself to the disgust and annoyance of the woman. This is not theory, I’m talking about real life issues. Some men also ejaculate before gaining entrance at all while some shoot the moment they gets in. These are all BAD, VERY BAD sex acts.

Ladies who are always achieving orgasm through dildo and solo stroking won’t enjoy sex too. You won’t be able to wait for the man to work on you. You are so used to the orgasm that you can’t feel the sexual experience or you compare your husband to your dildo or sex toy. That’s why some women complain they don’t enjoy sex even if they have it with different men on daily basis.

Learn to hold your body. Self control is a quality you must possess if you want to enjoy sex in marriage. Some singles argue that it’s better to fornicate then and avoid the problem of masturbation altogether. It’s still the same problem of IMPATIENCE and LACK OF SELF CONTROL. If you must always have sex as a single person, you will commit adultery in marriage, because whenever your spouse is not available or heavily pregnant, you will go out and look for who to have sex with. It’s as simple as that.

A successful married life is built on principles, you can’t eat your cake and have it. If you cannot control yourself before marriage, you won’t control yourself after marriage.

Avoid watching pornography. You can’t watch those heavy scenes and not masturbate. Get close to God and get busy with your life and vision. An idle hand is the devil’s workshop. People who are physically and mentally lazy carry out all manner of vices imaginable.

Read good books that shape your future. Make friends with positive people who value chastity and purity. Avoid friends who crack dirty jokes and say lewd things. Respect your body, value yourself and put sex in the right perspective. Learn to wait for sex. There is no where you are rushing to.

If you marry at 25 you still have 75 years to enjoy sex so why the hurry? Impatience is a vice not a virtue, learn to wait for what is yours. It pays on the long run. Thanks for reading, God bless you, cheer

Longest Prisoner

Meet Francis Clifford Smith, Oldest Longest-Lasting Prisoner In The World Who Has Been In Prison For 71years Since 1950 Celebrate His 94years Old Today. This man was sentenced to prison when he was 23 years old. He was sentenced to life imprisonment when he was found guilty of murder in 1950. He was born in October 9th 1924 in the United States of America.

According to reports, he was arrested for murdering a security guard during a robbery in the night in 1950.Francis has been in prison for the past 71 years of his life, and he’s still alive. He’s meant to serve in prison till he dies.

According to reports, he’s 94years old today. Despite he’s too old, but he’s still detained till he dies in prison. He’s being detained in Orsborm Correctional Institution, a prison in the US.

When last did you thank your wife after having s*x with her? Ingratitude is a killer – Clergywoman, Funke Felix-Adejumo, tackles married men

Clergywoman Funke Felix-Adejumo has tackled married men who do not thank their wives for marrying them, and also after having sex with them.

Felix- Adejumo while preaching in a church recently, tackled men who display traits of ingratitude. In her words

”Ingratitude is a killer and it is so disturbing that some people, not only do they show it to God but also to men. As a man, when last did you thank your wife for marrying you? When last did you thank your wife after aving sex with her? She gave you her body. Don’t tell me we enjoyed it together. When a woman gives her body to you, it is a lot. To a woman, sex is more than ‘oh let’s just have pleasure’.”

California new law prohibits the act of removing condom without permission during intercourse

California has become the first state in the U.S. to outlaw ‘stealthing,’ a slang term for the nonconsensual removal of a condom during sex.


The law, signed by Gov. Gavin Newsom on Thursday, makes it a civil sexual battery offense under state law for someone to remove a condom without their romantic partner’s consent.


“For a majority of the people, it’s like, yeah, it makes sense that this is immoral and it should be illegal,” State Assembly member Cristina Garcia, who sponsored the legislation, told NPR.


“A lot of people told me, ‘I can’t believe it’s not already illegal,'” she added.


“I have been working on the issue of ‘stealthing’ since 2017 and I am elated that there is now some accountability for those who perpetrate the act. Sexual assaults, especially those on women of color, are perpetually swept under the rug,” Garcia said in a statement when the bill passed.


Garcia cited a study by Yale University that called stealthing “a grave violation of dignity and autonomy” and said cases affecting women and gay men were on the rise.


People found guilty of removing a condom without consent could be liable for general, special, and punitive damages, the law states.


A 2018 survey of patients at a sexual health clinic in Melbourne, Australia, found that 32% of women and 19% of men who have sex with men had experienced stealthing.

“I have looked around but they have been drowned by alcoholism” – Female Kenyan youth leader laments shortage of ‘marriageable’ men in her community

A female youth leader and political analyst from Tharaka Nithi county, Kenya, has lamented over a shortage of marriageable men in the region.

Anita Nkirote, who is single, said due to alcoholism, the number of husband materials is alarmingly low in the region.

The University of Nairobi graduate said she had looked for a husband material in Tharaka Nithi and even extended her search to neighbouring Meru county but could not find one.

Speaking during Mt Kenya Foundation meeting with leaders led by One Kenya Alliance (OKA) principals at Safari Park Hotel on Thursday, October 7, Nkirote said alcoholism was also leading to mental health issues in the region.



“This has bedevilled our young men to an extent some of them are not even married. As we speak today, I am not married. I have looked around in Tharaka Nithi and even Meru and it is a big issue,” she said.


The youth leader also urged the politicians to look into the issue of unemployment in Central Kenya.

“The issue of unemployment is caused by a lack of economic expansion. Our economy is not expanding at a fast rate as our young graduates. We are talking about the issues of internship and mentorship for our youth,” she added.

NBA star, Kyrie Irving to forfeit $380,000 per game over vaccine refusal

NBA superstar Kyrie Irving is reportedly set to lose $380,000 per home game he misses due to his continued reluctance to get vaccinated with his future with the Brooklyn Nets now in doubt. 

The All-Star guard is one of the high profile basketball player who is still refusing to get jabbed. He’s been unable to train or play in New York due to the city’s Covid-19 vaccine mandate.

While Irving remains unvaccinated, he will also be unable to play in any home games or practices for the foreseeable future and will forfeit a large chunk of his salary.

The Nets play six home games in a row in the second week of the new season, meaning Irving would not be able to see his teammates for 11 days.

Irving’s aunt, Tyki Irving, previously told Rolling Stone that he could feature ‘every third game’ and effectively become a part-time player, but ESPN report that the Nets are unlikely to be so accommodating.

The Nets’ hierarchy ‘may have to make hard decisions’ on the future of Irving if he does not get vaccinated.

Irving has  remained quiet on his decision not to get vaccinated, though has liked anti-vaxx conspiracy posts on social media.

Speaking at the end of last month, he said: ‘There’s just a lot of questions about what’s going on in the world of Kyrie and I think I’d love to just keep that private and handle it the right way with my team and go forward together with a plan.

‘So obviously I’m not able to be present there today, but that doesn’t mean that I’m putting any limits on the future of me being able to join the team.’

28-year-old man arrested for allegedly raping his male flatmate

Phiri said the man has been charged with sodomy contrary to Section 153 (a) of the Penal Code.

According to Phiri, the suspect and the complainant had been living together in the same house for two months by the time of the rape.

On the fateful night, the complainant went to a drinking joint and came back home to sleep while drunk.

While he was asleep, Lewis advanced himself towards him and allegedly had carnal knowledge against order of nature.

After receiving the matter, Kawale Police arrested Lewis and he will appear in court soon to answer the charge leveled against him. 

THINGS A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP MUST HAVE

1) RESPECT

A Relationship without Respect will lead to abuse. Respect is shown by how a person talks to you, and how they treat you. A person who insults you in public and in private never considers your opinions, such a person doesn’t respect You. Don’t stay in a relationship where you have no Voice.

A Relationship/Marriage where you have no VOICE is a PRISON and your partner is the JAILER.

2) TRUST

Without trust, a Relationship will give you hypertension. You should not date someone you can’t trust, that you don’t trust them is a warning sign, ignoring this may not end well. And you should not date someone who doesn’t trust you, if they don’t trust you, you’ll always be a suspect in their eyes even when innocent.

3) MUTUAL INTEREST/EFFORT

A Relationship is not a SOLE-PROPRIETORSHIP but a PARTNERSHIP, never carry one alone. You love them, do they love you? You trust them, do they trust You? You’ll die for them, will they die for you? Are you the boo of your boo? A Relationship that is ended will exhaust you and eventually leave you broken, it’s better not to start, believe me, you can finish it. If you sense the interest, sacrifices, and efforts are one-sided, for your own good, retreat, it’s better to RETREAT than to proceed and end in REGRET.

4) LOVE

Love is exemplified by Kindness, Care, and Sacrifice.

5) FRIENDSHIP.

Question: What is a Relationship without Friendship?

Answer: Civil Service. A Relationship where you can’t joke, you can’t be yourself, you can’t come back to the person you love and feel happy in their company, that one is a situationship.

Over the years, what will make any marriage not become boring and mechanical is friendship. Always start here, don’t jump into COMMITMENT when you haven’t made sure you both have FRIENDSHIP

Be FRIENDS before you become lovers and remain FRIENDS AFTER.

The woman reveals she shares her husband with her mum and sister to keep him happy

A woman has disclosed that she shares her husband with her mum and sister.

Madi Brooks, from the US, opened up about her open relationship in a video on TikTok where she has over 92,700 followers.

The social media star, her mum and husband are all in an open relationship, and even her sister gets involved in the action.

In the clip, she says: “Me and my mum are both swingers and it’s great.

“You know why? Whenever I’m not in the mood, I can just let my husband have her.

“Yeah I’m that kind of wife. I let my husband have her a couple of times a week.”

Woman reveals she shares her husband with her mum and sister to keep him happy

Madi said that even her sister sometimes “plays” with her husband.

She adds: “You wanna know how I keep my man happy? I let him play with my little sister.”

Woman reveals she shares her husband with her mum and sister to keep him happy

The videos left many TikTok users baffled with one asking: “How did that conversation ever initiate?”

Another social media user commented: “That’s enough TikTok for one year, I’m out.”

World’s richest man, Elon Musk, earns $5 billion in a day, now worth $209 billion

Despite Evergrande contagion creating some havoc in key markets, Elon Musk, the world’s richest man, posted impressive gains according to Bloomberg’s Billionaires Index as investors made strong bets on the world’s most valuable car company.

Friday’s trading session at the world’s largest economy yielded gains of about $5.07 billion, making the South African-born entrepreneur worth $209 billion. To date, the tech CEO has made $39.1 billion.

Tesla, the world’s most valuable automaker recorded a 2.75% gain in stock market trade on Friday, exceeding a $764.55 buy point. The 21-day exponential moving average has provided support for the shares. A trend of rising relative strength is evident, as well as the sloping 50-day line.

Moreover, investors are also holding tight to the blue-chip stock after Cathie Wood, the Chief Investment Officer of Ark Investment Management, announced that she would sell Tesla Inc. if its price reaches her five-year target this year.

She said she expects the electric-vehicle maker’s stock price in five years to be $3,000, roughly above $750 today. “I believe we would be peeling out of it if nothing changes in our outlook and we reach $3,000 next year,” she said.

Generally, stock experts expect that a Democratic-controlled U.S government would be positive for Tesla in the long run, on the basis that there would be more investments in renewable energy in the future.

Musk currently runs Tesla, America’s most valuable car company, as well as SpaceX, which is NASA’s largest customer.

Regulatory filings from February 2020 indicate Musk owns about 20% of Tesla. The collateral used for his personal obligations is part of his holdings.

The Palo Alto, California-based company makes electric sedans and SUVs, and investors are optimistic about the possibility of global government policies encouraging the adoption of electric vehicles. Tesla built a factory to manufacture its large-scale Megapack battery system. Megapack energy storage is intended for utilities.

As of the start of last year, the fifty-year-old tech tycoon was not listed among the top 50 richest people in the world. In July of that year, he passed Warren Buffett as America’s seventh-richest person.

119 million troy ounces of gold or 2.68 billion barrels of crude oil equal his current net worth.

No man needs to date you for years to know if you’re marriageable or not – Actor Kenneth Okonkwo

Actor Kenneth Okonkwo has said that a man does not need to date a lady for years to know if she is marriageable or not. He shared this thought on his Facebook page this evening.

According to him, men certainly know what they want from a woman even before they approach her. He wrote;

”Absolutely no man needs to date you for years to know if you’re marriageable or not. Men almost certainly know what they want from a woman even before they approach her.

My advice to ladies looking to find life partners is this: always be yourself. Make sure you’re happy and enjoying the relationship and not pretending so as to please the man you’re dating.

If it’s not you, it’s not you and there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it. It’s not about you. It’s about him and where he’s placed you in his heart.

Stop stressing it.”

You are a failure if at 35 you are still living with your parents – Controversial Ghanaian prophet, Nigel Gaisie

Popular and controversial Ghanaian pastor, Prophet Nigel Gaisie has listed ten things which according to him makes one a failure including living with parents at age 35.

 The founder and Leader of Prophetic Hill Chapel International, further opined that anyone that keeps multiple sexual partners, is a failure.

YOU ARE A FAILURE !!!!!!NO ARGUMENT, IF YOU DISAGREE, JUST MAKE YOUR POINT…WE ARE HERE TO INSPIRE EACH OTHER’

1. You are a failure if at 35 you’re still staying with your parents or family compound

2. You are a failure if you’re waiting for a government before you start something with your life.

3. You’re a failure if all you think about is waiting to be fed by others, regardless of your circumstances, you can start something.

4. You’re a failure if you keep repeating mistakes in the name of human weakness.

5. You’re a failure if at age 25 you still keep multiple sexual partners and fancy certain party hang out merry

6.You’re a colossal failure if you still believe life begins @40, check the world around you, Youngsters are taking over

7. You’re a failure if @ 40 certain family relations can’t reach out to you for help

8. You’re a family if you’re still following the pattern of your parents that led to their distraction

9. You’re a failure if all you don’t think well about people, (speak well about people)

10. You’re a failure as a parent, if your children are not greater than you or perhaps on almost the same scale…..

“My tear rubber wife” Husband who married a virgin joins his wife to show off blood-soaked bedsheet to silence the doubters

A newly married man, whose wife went online to share proof she married as a virgin, also shared proof as he hailed his wife for keeping her virginity. 

Days after her wedding, Ihechi Mary Ebe shared photos of a blood-soaked bedsheet and blood on the tiles as she revealed she was a virgin until marriage. She then called out her exes who abandoned her because she wouldn’t have sex with them (read here).

Her husband also took to Facebook to share a photo of the blood-soaked bedsheet as he told the world he married a “tear rubber wife”.

"My tear rubber wife" Husband who married a virgin joins his wife to show off blood-soaked bedsheet to silence the doubters

Someone commented, asking if the husband was also “tear rubber” and the new wife got angry at the question. 

See below. 

"My tear rubber wife" Husband who married a virgin joins his wife to show off blood-soaked bedsheet to silence the doubters

What Are The Signs Of A Happy Couple

There’s one secret to living happily ever after. But there are certain strategies and habits you can adopt to make sure that your relationship with your romantic partner thrives in a healthy way that encourages growth and a strong bond throughout the decades. Here are the top things that happy couples have in common — we could all learn a thing or two!

1. Respect

Consistent respect is the single most empowering part of a strong relationship. It makes you feel valued, and creates a powerful foundation of trust, gratitude, and loyalty. Not sure how to display respect to your partner? First, consider thanking them more frequently, even for the little things. Always make sure task about your partner’s day and genuinely listen. The way that you argue will also reflect respect. Rather than screaming, listen to the person’s feelings and try to understand from their perspective.

2. Spending time together

Quality time is important for every couple. No matter how different your pastime and careers are, enjoying each other’s company with activities you both like is important. This doesn’t have to mean high-stakes adventures and fancy dinners. You can simply cook together, share a cup of coffee, or even take a class together. 

3. Screen free time

Netflix and chill is the easiest activity to do, especially when you’re both exhausted from work. But when you watch TV, your attention is focused outwards rather than on each other. Try to spend at least some time together that’s phone and television free so you can really focus on each other — even if it’s just taking a walk down the street together. This will help you get out of the TV or phone scrolling rut.

4. It’s the little things

You don’t always have to make some grand gesture to show someone that you love them. In fact, the little things matter way more than hiring a flash mob or spending a ton of money on expensive jewelry. Consider completing a chore you know your partner doesn’t like, getting them their favorite cup of coffee, or leaving little love notes around the house. 

5. Physical intimacy

It is natural for some couples to fall into a rut in their sex life, especially if they’ve been together for a while. But there are other kinds of physical intimacy that can release the love hormone, aka oxytocin. This can include holding hands, kissing, hugging and sharing massages. This closeness will help make your bond stronger while reducing stress.

6. Argue in a proactive way

Yes, there is such a thing as good fighting. Fighting is inevitable for every couple, but in the end, it should help you move forward and learn something new about each together so that your relationship is stronger than ever. Instead of giving each other the silent treatment, shouting, or holding grudges, focus on problem-solving, compromise, and sincere apologies. Always try to patiently listen rather than defensively lashing out and interrupting. 

7. Teamwork makes the dreamwork

Being on the same side as your partner is important. Sometimes in therapy, this is called “operational intimacy.” While this can be expressed in different ways, it usually means that you show solidarity with each other and act like teammates in matters like parenting, household chores, or vacation planning.

8. Independence

Being overly clingy with each other will make you co-dependent, and might make you bored of the other person. Having a healthy relationship with yourself is the most important thing in life, and all other relationships are secondary. That’s why self-care and time dedicated for yourself is just as important as quality time in your relationship. Maintain separate identities and that will make the bond between you even more special, acting as a constant reminder of why you fell in love

9. Not comparing your relationship to others

Pro tip: to avoid doing this, stop following so many influencer couples on social media! Drawing comparisons to other couples and focusing on the expectations and assumptions of others will always lead to your downfall. Instead, happy couples realize that their dynamic is completely unique, and they only judge their lives together by their own standards.

Two Nigerian women jailed for human trafficking offences in Ireland

Two Nigerian women who became the first people in Ireland to be convicted of human trafficking for the prostitution ring they ran, have received jail sentences of five years and eight months and five years and one month.

Alicia Edosa (45) and Edith Enoghaghase (31) were each found guilty of two counts of trafficking women around Ireland on dates between September 2016 and June 2018 following a six-week jury trial at Mullingar Circuit Criminal Court in June. 

Edosa of The Harbour, Market Point, Mullingar, and Enoghaghase of Meeting House Lane, Mullingar, were also each convicted of a single charge of organising prostitution as well as a series of money laundering offences.

Two Nigerian women jailed for human trafficking offences in Ireland

Enoghaghase’s husband, Omonuwa Desmond Osaighbovo, was also convicted of four related money laundering offences.

“They coerced the victims into a sustained and degrading period of prostitution, which did great harm to all victims for financial gain,” the judge said.

He said the two accused had taken advantage of vulnerable women who had no real alternative but to accept their exploitation before finally summoning enough courage to break free.

In a victim impact statement read out by counsel for the DPP, Fiona Murphy SC, the woman had said: “I suffered badly from what Alicia did.”

She added: “I hated the life Alicia made me live that I tried to kill myself. I lost my pride as a woman. I feel ashamed. It is not the way I wanted to live.”

The woman said she was now scared when men asked her out on dates.

“Alicia was the worst person to ever come into my life,” she said.

The other woman who Edosa trafficked said she had earned €46,000 “with my sweat and blood” but did not receive “even a dime”, while she still suffered health problems as a result of being involved in prostitution.

Observing that she had been affected physically, mentally, financially and psychologically by her experiences in Ireland, she added: “The wounds inflicted on me will never go away.”

One of Enoghaghase’s victims said she still had scars on her chest from where she was cut with a razor blade during a voodoo ceremony.

The woman said she firmly believed the voodoo curse would kill her and her son. “I was scared all the time and I still feel scared today,” she stated.

She described how she could not work at the moment as she suffered from depression and post-traumatic stress disorder.

The woman, who now lives in the UK, said she no longer trusted men and did not think she could ever have another relationship with a male.

She also doubted if she would ever return to Ireland or Nigeria, because she remained frightened of Enoghaghase.

“Edith has robbed me of my normal life,” she said.

Another Nigerian woman who was trafficked by Enoghaghase said she still suffered from shock “when I think about the life I have lived”.

The woman said she could no longer bear the idea of being touched by a man and she was also uncomfortable in large gatherings.

She felt betrayed by Enoghaghase and had lost her trust in people. “I feel very angry and sad all the time,” she stated.

Counsel for Edosa, Kenneth Fogarty SC, admitted his client was unable to accept the verdict of the jury.

Mr Fogarty outlined how Edosa was one of eight children from an impoverished background, who left her family home in Nigeria at 11 to go live with her older sister, where she was raped by another family member.

Edosa, who had no previous convictions, moved to Ireland in 2011 with her now estranged Slovakian husband and began working in prostitution in 2017 with Escorts Ireland, when she felt it was the only way to earn a living after her residency permit to remain in Ireland had expired.

A psychological report described her as someone who was self-reliant “who will do what is necessary to ensure her survival” as well as being “a friendly, respectful woman”.

Counsel for Enoghaghase, Séamus Clarke SC, said his client was a mother of three young children aged 11, 8 and 5, who first moved to Ireland in 2006.

Mr Clarke said Enoghaghase had been placed in foster care between 2007 and 2008 after being found working as a young prostitute in Sligo.

She later moved to Dublin, where she met her husband, and they settled in Mullingar in 2014.

Pleading for leniency, given Enoghaghase would lose out on her role as primary carer for her children, Mr Clarke pointed out that his client, who has no previous convictions, was a victim of trafficking as a young girl.

Detective Garda Niall Stack told the court that the garda investigation began after two of the victims made formal complaints at Store Street Garda station in May 2018.

Edosa and Enoghaghase were arrested and questioned but made no admissions during 15 interviews after gardaí carried out a search of their homes in April 2019.

Osaighbovo, who the court heard suffered gunshot wounds during a visit to Nigeria in January 2018, which required the amputation of his left thumb, was given a suspended sentence of two years and three months for the money laundering convictions. 

SIGNS YOU ARE DATING A WOMAN, AND NOT A GIRL.

There comes a time in a man’s life, where he would look beyond the superficial things, and long to date a woman with value and one he can build up something special with. When a man reaches a certain point in his life, he would seek for a mature relationship — one with values, and he knows that he can’t find this with every lady out there. Sir, if a woman claims to love you but always threatening of leaving or quitting if you did anything wrong please I would advise you to be very careful of such fellow. These are some signs you are dating a real woman.

1. SHE’S INTERESTED IN YOUR GROWTH AS A PERSON

While a girl is usually carried away by superficial things, a woman needs more than that; she’s interested in your growth financially, spiritually, career-wise and all other aspects of life. She just wants the best for her man.

2. SHE COMMUNICATES.

Girls want to be communicated to, they want to be understood, but are unwilling to make a move towards that; they tend to expect the man to just understand and communicate with them. But a woman communicates; she reaches out to you, she holds meaningful conversations, she explains her feelings and seeks to understand yours.

3. SHE MAKES THE RELATIONSHIP BETTER

A girl might expect you to spoil her all the time; she might want unlimited attention and affection, but she wouldn’t really put in efforts to make the relationship work. A woman has grown past all these; yes, she might want the attention and affection (all women do), but she’s also interested in building her relationship too.

4. SHE’S GENUINE

A girl might live a life of pretense or even fake her feelings for you, but a woman is genuine; she is original, she lives her life without pretense and her love for you cannot be disputed.

5. SHE’S HONEST AND TRUSTWORTHY

Girls easily pop out the lie, and conveniently too, but a woman understands the importance of truthfulness; she’s honest and truthful, and she’s a trustworthy person.

6. SHE BUILDS SUCCESS WITH YOU

The average girl looks for a successful man to be with, but a woman builds success with you; she recognizes your goals, ambitions, passion and drive — and she helps build success with you.

7. SHE’S WILLING TO LEARN

She’s willing to learn, she’s open to communicate, she understands that there’s room for improvement, she listens and she interacts. These acts help her learn more; she isn’t stuck with what she knows – and only a woman can have these traits.

8. SHE BUILDS HER INNER BEAUTY

While most girls are focused on their outer beauty, a woman builds her inner beauty too. She understands that the inner beauty is way more important than the outer; she takes care of her outer beauty and then builds her character and person from within.

9. SHE HANDLES SITUATION BETTER

A woman handles situation better; she doesn’t freak out when there is an understanding, she doesn’t put the whole blame on you either. She’s mature enough to accept her share of the blame, learn from it and look for solutions to help the relationship.

10. A WOMAN ISN’T SELF CENTRED.

She cares about her man and cares about her relationship. Dating a woman is totally different from dating a girl. Moreover, it isn’t age that makes a woman whom she is; it’s the values she has inculcated within her over a period of time that makes her mature and stand out.