The rate at which marriages are failing nowadays, sometimes I think one would have a better chance of surviving cancer than having a successful marriage. If you hear from this l will go and issue him/ her a Divorce letter.
The reason is, most men go through life and get married without understanding the key elements that make their marriages succeed or fail.
I would like to show Men what they unknowingly do to destroy their marriage in a few easy ways that they should be careful with as they will commit these mistakes and sometimes not even realize that they are killing their marriage.
Men need to start to understand that this attitude and behavior makes marriages break and be prepared to work on their marriage and make it work.
1. HUSBAND FREQUENT ABUSIVE LANGUAGE ON HER WIFE
It’s amazing how most men think it’s okay to abuse their partner and think it’s a sign of strength when it only shows how weak they are. Husbands frequently abuse their wives and see nothing wrong with it. Most married men today shamelessly tend to act as if their marriage certificate gives them the right to verbally or physically abuse their wives.
2. HUSBAND WHO IS NOT DEFENSIVES
When l said defensive am not only talking of physical defense but also on Spiritual, Mental Emotional Defense. Men who repeatedly become defensive when challenged or criticized by their wives have much higher rates of unhappiness and divorce. Being defensive is not only destructive; it shuts a man off from an extremely valuable source of feedback that comes from his wife.
3. HUSBAND THAT NEVER ADMITS IS WRONG
Men have got to be willing to admit when they are wrong. Always remember that your wives are usually in excellent positions to recognize when you are wrong and mean well when they correct you.
They are also usually more than happy to point this out to your shortcomings in the hope that we will make corrections. If you as a man shut out this valuable source of feedback by always seeking to defend your actions or point of view, you will damage your marriage. You will continue to commit the same mistakes, over and over again, until she gets tired of you and this ugly and childish trait.
4. DON’T TRY TO BE MR RIGHT @ all TIME
Do not always want to be right, please. Perhaps the biggest mistake you can make if you want to have a good marriage with your wife is to always try to be right in what you do or say. Why is this so destructive? Because in order for you to be right, your partner must end up being wrong. Most people dislike having others make them feel wrong.
Never always look at winning the argument or getting your way, you’ll pay a price later when your partner decides to move out of your life after they have had enough. It’s almost always wiser to let your partner be right and have their way as much as possible.
5. DON’T REGRET HER FOOD
Don’t try at any time to REGRET our food prepared for you. Because by doing so you hurt her feelings the more. More so when you REGRET her food you make all her Effort to give you good meal to be wasted.
6. NOT ATTENTIVE TO HER
The secret to dealing with criticism from your wives is not to reject it or act defensively but to intently listen to everything she is saying about you, and then try to find one or more things you can agree with. Don’t automatically try to defend yourself or prove you are right. Work hard to validate some of what your partner is saying. Understand that the sting of another’s criticism usually comes with some truth in it. If you want to have a happy, healthy, longs lasting marriage, look for these “truths” and be willing to admit them.
7. BY BEING SELFISH
Another way men destroy their marriages is to always be selfish and try to get their own way in everything. Do not only think about your own need, benefits, and desires. Put your concerns first and consider your partner’s like something important too. This is has destroyed so many Marriages and Relationships.
Please be careful with this.
8. NOT SATISFYING YOUR WIFE SEXUALLY or SEXUAL PUNISHMENT
A lot of homes have scattered all because of sexual satisfaction or sexual punishment. When a man can not satisfy his wife and make her enjoy her marriage there is a big problem. There should be a difference, when she is not married and when she is married. I mean not you as a husband only satisfy yourself but your wife is not, both of you must enjoy sex together with no cheating. Ask her if she is OK & enjoy it but if she is not pounded on her make her Climax.
Some even use sex as a means of punishment to the wife in order to take revenge for her wrongdoing, Very bad.
Also, some wives do such, even in some homes they have SEX Time Table, l don’t say is not good due to some people work, or if the couple are not living together due to traveling or working in a different state or country. But both of you must truly agree on it not that one is cheating on the other. Avoid Sexual punishment in your Marriage relationship in order not to mess up your marriage.
Loneliness is also one of the ways one can mess up his marriage. When your wife always feels lonely while you’re not around and when you’re still around it’s a bad habit. Don’t be two parallel lines, don’t sit away from each other but sit close to each other to feel the intimacy. The greatest killer of life is loneliness, a lot of people have died due to the fact that they don’t have someone to discuss or chat with. Some even commit suicide because of loneliness. Men, Try and get close to your wife so that she can rub your mind with you.
10. HUSBAND BE PROTECTIVE
when a man is not protective there will be a misunderstanding between them. A man must protect her wife both physically, Emotionally, Mentally, and Spiritually. He must protect her wife from her relatives insulting her wife, because if he fails and they insult her automatically the man is the one they insulted. He must be protected in the Area of prayer, shield your wife & home with prayer. Umbrella when it rains & under the Sun.
11. HUSBAND TREAT YOUR WIFE LIKE A CHILD.
Husband try & treat your wife like a child. They say we men are their Babies sucking Breast been breastfeeding by them.
Husband try and treat your wife well because they are a Child in your hands that needs care, bring her up in some Area she lacks behind, teach her, Nurture her, Pamper her and lastly Show her Love. Let her know you care for her by doing so you win her heart. You will just see she obey your command, honor & respect you as well.
12. HUSBAND DON’T KEEP UNNECESSARY SECRET
In order for her to love you so as not to keep an unnecessary secret from her. Keeping unnecessary secrets can cause her not to Trust you anymore which can jeopardize your marriage.
13. DON’T ALLOW FAMILY MEMBERS TO DOMINATE HER
You as a husband don’t allow in any way for any of your family to dominate over her and be dictating over her life. Don’t sell her Cheap or Use her as a Trade by Barter.
Husband, you must understand that your Wife needs this from you;
Your Care and
That’s the best way to prove your love for her.